Originally posted by: PJ Stroh
Sorry for your loss, Candy.
My mother is going through something similar as your late husband and its heartbreaking. Choosing between the gift of life with suffering or death to end the suffering......who can say which is better? We can only hope the suffering yields more good days than bad while they are still with us.
Hope your husband has found peace and I hope you can get a second wind on enjoying the rest of your life.
Beautifully said, PJ, "the gift of life with suffering vs death to end it...who can say which is better?" Nobody, of course can say. Whenever asked if he might take his own life (doctors, hospital forms) he'd say "I don't have the guts."
He maintained an unrealistic (my word) belief that he would some day be able to go back to work (auto tech) and catch up on things around the house. That hope may have sustained him more than I realized. We once had the loveliest yard/flowers, etc. in the subdivision.
But, ya know, when you work full time (as did I), even in the best of times, things get put on the back burner, then suddenly "normal" falls apart and things are left undone. That's life.
Hey, just yesterday I figured out how to pull our TV remotes apart to change the batteries. Before I couldn't do it, always had to hand it to him to do. Yea me!
Anyway, thank you, PJ,l for your thoughts, very much appreciated.
Candy