Originally posted by: Mark
Baby, is my sometimes girlfriend. She is African American. I have spoken a few times about how when in Vegas if we walk by a high end store the workers go on high alert because there is a black person in the vicinity. I got the same reply you did when I asked her about it. She said she was used to it as she has experienced it her entire life which I thought was very sad.
I think a lot of white folks would be well served by developing some African American friendships and then go places with them so you can see first hand how their fellow Americans treat them.
I had two Black long-time bridge partners about 20 years ago. One was a youngish public defender, and the other was an older, recently retired grocery store manager. So, they were pretty high on the social ladder. They lived in nice neighborhoods in the SF Bay Area and were pretty well off. But I saw, and I'm sure they noticed, many, many times when people looked askance and also at me, at bridge tournaments and club games. What's a black person doing here? It was never overt; however, it was always quite noticeable and quite frequent. And I'm certain that if I noticed it, so did my partners. I'm sure they had learned to shrug it off, but still...
The American Bridge Association was formed by Black bridge players in the 1930s when they weren't allowed to play in clubs or at tournaments. The ABA still exists. I've gone to and played in their tournaments and have usually been the only white person in the entire room. I never got anything other than courtesy and a warm welcome. That's not what my Black partners got when they were the only Black people in the room.